Tuesday, 27 November 2012

Anniversary

(image from en.wikipedia.org)

Today has been our 16th wedding anniversary, which we have commemorated in our usual style, by doing nothing different whatsoever!!  We don't do a lot about anniversaries, to be honest, and we usually remember the day afterwards, but today, I remembered in time to comment this morning that today was the day!  

Wikipedia suggests that the traditional gift for this year would be something made of porcelain.  Best not, here, as porcelain wouldn't last five minutes....

I don't feel hard done by in any way, because, actually, we didn't make that big a deal over the wedding: we had a registry office do with some friends and neighbours [no family made the journey], and then went home to a shared lunch which I prepared, and a cake which I had made and a lady in the street had iced for me.  We had a snooze in the afternoon with the baby, the EFG, who was 12 weeks old, and then some more friends came round in the evening for a chat and a drink and a few nibbles.  And more cake!  My outfit came from the Save the Children shop in St Andrews, and cost £10 for the two piece.  I wore some shoes I already had, and the FH wore his suit.  The rings came from a jewellers in St Andrews as well, and whilst the engagement ring was new, the wedding ring was second hand.  It is a lovely ring, though.

I feel that it isn't the wedding that needs the time and the effort, but the marriage, and we have certainly done that.  We have been through a lot - lots of medical upheavals, house moves, two children, family woes, financial cramp [as the FH calls it] and still we can say we love each other and are happy to be together.  That, to us, is worth everything.


12 comments:

Angela said...

Congratulations to you both! Love, life and laughter be yours in bucketloads xx

Wannabe Sybil said...

My jaundiced view is that people who marry to be married, usually (not always) on a shoestring, stay married and happy. Those who get married for the big wedding find things a lot tougher.

Congratulations! I hope you have many happy years together! WS xxx (who can't be bothered with anniversaries either)

Morgan said...

Thank you both xxx

Bryallen said...

Congratulations! Lovely to hear stories of long marriages! :)

I agree with Wannabe Sybil. It does sort of seem that if you splash the cash too much on a wedding, you're probably more in it for your "big day" than you are for your LIFE together!! Maybe I'm being cynical there though! :)

Hope you had a lovely day. Maybe you can go out for afternoon tea at the weekend - maybe use some porcelain teacups! :)

judes07 said...

Happy anniversary! Cheers Judy xx

Scarlet said...

Happy Anniversary! I'm the anomaly who has had a well planned and quite expensive wedding, and a long and happy marriage(coming up to 29 years)- both to the same person! We were 16 and 19 when we met, 19 and 22 when we married. I think because we hadn't lived together beforehand, the wedding was a big and important thing for us - it really did mark the start of our life together, and it's a day we celebrate every year( in a small and inexpensive way as that's what our budget permits).

Morgan said...

Congratulations, Scarlet :)

I hope the post didn't sound too cynical, but I have a sister who has had two big weddings, and a divorce, and a cousin who has had a big wedding, and a wedding blessing, and an affair, so it does taint one's thoughts a little.

silversewer said...

Happy anniversary, and many mor to come. We too had a very quiet do, just 2 freinds to witness the occasion, then back to one freinds house for scrambled eggs with smoked salmon and champagne.

We left at lunchtime to drive down to Harrogate, the NT had a free weekend on to encourage NT groups to visit Harrogate and the surrounding area, so a cheap wedding and honeymoon for us,

Lesley said...

Happy Anniversary! You are so right, the marriage is far more important than the wedding, and you obviously have a great one.

Scarlet said...

Hi Morgan, I don't think you were too cynical - just honest, and observantof the way in which many people see a wedding rather than a marriage. We would have been quite happy to have gone to the registry office and had a bag of chips afterwards in order to be together (living together wasn't an option for us), but my parents paid for us to have a nice, but not lavish, wedding day. My Dad actually talked in his speech about how the wedding day wasn't the important part - it was what came afterwards that mattered - he was a wise man and I learned much from his and Mum's happy marriage that was cut short by his death aged 55( It's a shame my siblings didn't learn quite as much - affairs and divorce feature in my family too). I often wonder about people who say they can't afford to get married - I think what they actually mean is that they can't afford a big fancy wedding, and without that they don't want the marriage part.
I wish you and the FH many more happy years together, and look forward to reading more posts.( I read regularly but don't comment very often).

Laura // No More Spending said...

Happy anniversary! :)

DeborahT said...

I agree. We had a fairly modest registry office do, followed by lunch in the hospital social club, catered for by friends and family. We have been married almost 15 years now, for better or for worse....