The FH has a friend in the village who is in his early 90s, and generally quite fit and well for his age. He is a bit of a cantankerous old chap at times, but they get along and he is one of the mates that the FH takes out on trips.
Unfortunately, he has no close family, and his relatives (late wife's sister and her daughter) live about 50 miles away, and don't come to see him as often as they used to. He has lately started to telephone us around 7am in the mornings, saying that he needs the FH and doesn't feel well.....it was 6.45am on Monday, and this morning it was 7.25am......as much as I understand that he is an elderly chap, and might be ill, most of the time when the FH gets there, he just wants to sit and have a cup of tea and a chat. He may have had a sleepless night, and has been lonely overnight and wants company. I understand that - night times are always the worst if you are feeling rough, or lonely.
He has expressed a desire to go and live in a nearby residential home, so he asked the FH to take him there to have a look. This was done, and he liked the look of it. When he was due to go to spend a day there to see if it was what he imagined, he was ill. He has since said that he wants to die in his own home, and then said again that the home is where he wants to go. He can't seem to make his mind up, and I see that it would be an awfully big upheaval for him at his time of life, and perhaps quite overwhelming for him.
Can anyone offer us any advice if they have helped an elderly person in this sort of situation?
My concern is that the FH is not a young man himself and can't keep running to this chap's bidding in the early mornings two or three times a week; it would be different if he was really ill, but he hasn't been. The FH has called the doctor out to him twice in order to have him checked out, and he is there again now, waiting for another doctor to come - it is a Sunday service, of course, so he will have to wait some time as it is not the village doctor.
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