Sunday, 6 October 2013

I'm back

Thank you, all of you, for your patience and kindness over the past week.  It hasn't been a good week in a lot of ways, but there have been some better days.

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We don't know what is going to happen to the baby yet.  The good news for the baby's sake is that he has been discharged from hospital, so after coming off the medication, he is well enough to go "home".  At this stage, it is a foster home, where I am sure he is being well loved and very well looked after.  It may be his forever home, we just don't know yet.

Only time will tell what the long term implications of the baby's gestation and birth conditions will have on him, and from what I have been told, he is sleeping well, eating well and doing what babies do!

I have spent time this week looking into the problems that he might face, and investigating kinship care.  I have friends in Scotland who have adopted a sibling pair, and the chap is also a social worker whose research area is childhood trauma, and so he knows a lot on this subject.  I also have an acquaintance through gymnastics who is a more local social worker.  Neither of them think that we would be considered as suitable for the care of the child, due to the FH's age and health conditions.  

If this does turn out to be the case, though, it appears that there may be other things we can do to stay in contact, even if it is just that our details are put into his records so that he can see when he is older that he has aunts [the girls] as well as his birth parents.  We may be able to arrange what is called "letterbox" contact through letters once or twice a year.  We will have to talk to the powers that be about what they consider suitable in this case.

I will make another attempt to speak with the social worker tomorrow as we have not heard anything from her since last Monday, although I know we were mentioned in a meeting on Wednesday.

For now, we have to give it time.  Time to wait and see what will happen, time to support and encourage the FH's son, and eventually, time to get accustomed to the loss of another grandchild, we fear.  
Time to pray and wait prayerfully, as always.


Sue in Suffolk said...

Perhaps it won't come to losing a grandchild, that is so sad. More good wishes and thoughts being sent to you.

veeknits19 said...

Glad you feel well enough to be blogging again. What difficult times for you all, it's good to know the babe is well enough to be discharged from hospital and that he has so many good people looking out for him. Good wishes with whatever may happen, xx

rabbitquilter said...

It is difficult to understand life sometimes, and the reasons for which things happen. You have a strong faith and that will guide you through. I do so hope you will be allowed to be a part of the little one's future. With love X

Fay McKenzie said...

Just wanted to give you a virtual hug. x

Anonymous said...

I also hope you're able to part of the little one's future. Best wishes to you and your family.

Wannabe Sybil said...

Lots and lots and lots of hugs - praying for you. WS xxx