I have a dear friend who is in a bad place personally, and she hasn't a lot of anything. If I had been the person lucky enough to have won the Euromillions last weekend, she would be top of my list to help. She has faced her husband leaving her, and now it looks like her house is going to be repossessed at the end of the month because she has no way of paying the mortgage and her husband has let it go into arrears in addition to not supporting their child.
I am lost as to what I can do to help her. She is ill with worry, pale, drawn and not sleeping or eating properly. I wish I could put a roof over her head but I can't because I can't home her dog, and I live in the countryside whereas she needs to live in the town as she has no transport and would be stranded out here.
She has an appointment later in the week with an advisor to find out what she can expect when the house is repossessed, and whilst she is grateful for the advice, I can tell that she is scared stiff as to what he is going to tell her.
I've been able to supplement her food by giving her some eggs this week, and I can share the lettuce and tomatoes from the garden; I have put together a little parcel of bits for her child from my stash today, as we were talking about the child moving up to secondary school in September, and she hadn't realised that she would have to provide pens, pencils, etc - and it seemed that one of these days is going to be the straw that breaks the camel's back! She has claimed a £50 voucher towards school uniform, but I hoped that giving her a few bits to put in a pencil case would be one less thing to worry about.
I guess I can pray, but all other suggestions are very welcome tonight, as I feel quite helpless too.
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check out https://www.capuk.org/home/index.php
you will find reliable, confidential andFREE help and advice there
just go on being a good friend
blessings and prayers x
Thank you - I have had a look at that and will pass it on to her as well. Thank you for your support xx
Something I read on MSE the other day was about a house being repo'd due to bankrupcy and it was mentioned not signing anything acknowledging the debt, otherwise the bank can still come calling even after everything has been dealt withs.
Look for post by Fuddle on the latest "tough" thread.
hth
Maisie - thanks - I remember reading that too, as I am reading that thread (doesn't it grow fast!?!) so I will have to go in there and have a look to see what it was called; thanks for reminding me! Deed of something or other...perhaps.
Thanks for visiting xx
Deed of Acknowledgement I think it was xx
hopefully this will work if not its post 3106.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=55031763&postcount=3106
I posted a reply yesterday but it doesn't seem to have come through it was post 3106 (Deed of Acknowledgment)
Maisie - sorry there was a backlog of me publishing comments!
I have pm'd Fuddle and she says it is only useful if you are going bankrupt, which my friend isn't. However, I hugely appreciate your input and it is wonderful to know I have readers who will help out with information like this - that is why I asked the questions. Many thanks.
Angel - thanks for your input with the website as well - v kind xx
Keep on with what you're doing, just being there for her will be something. Has she been to The citizen's advice bureau? I volunteer at our local one & know that they give a really good range of contacts & advice that may result in additional help...
@Thrifty - yes, she went to the CAB to start with, which was helpful but you guys must be snowed under as she had to wait two weeks for an appt. She has been put on to the Papworth Trust (I think) by the Jobcentre and the chap there has given her a list of things to do and people to speak to, and she has decided that she has to tackle this head on, because he told her she couldn't bury her head in the sand any longer - so glad HE said it, as I had been thinking it but couldn't say it to her. It was better coming from him, and she is doing better. The Doc has also given her a v mild sleeping/relaxing tablet of some kind and she has had a couple of nights' sleep, so she is feeling human again.
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