Monday, 24 January 2011

Settling down

I re-read an email I sent to Silversewer a while back and it came to me that I had understood myself so well all of a sudden in that email, so (apologies SS) I am going to share part of that here:

"Now that we have been back down here 10 years, it is hard to know where we belong. We feel like we have settled here now, but we have moved three times since we came back, and have been in this house 6 years. The girls were both born at Forth Park maternity hospital in Kirkcaldy, and are proud to be Scottish-born, if not Scottish-bred! I used to think I would go back to Cupar in a heartbeat, but we have got so involved here now that I think it would be a wrench to leave all this now - and I think that is what I missed about Cupar when we left - we had a "place" there in the community, and now that we have found our places here, we are actually quite happy here too. I do miss living in a town, though - we spend far too much time travelling here, whereas there we could walk just about anywhere we needed to go. The girls have to go to school on the bus, and we use the cars (now we have to have two) virtually every day. Having said that, I wouldn't fancy living in any of the towns round here, and I am grateful in some ways that living here stops the girls going out and hanging around in the streets - not that I would let them anyway, but they don't expect to be able to go out to hang around here - there's nowhere to hang!! I am happy for their friends to come here, and at least I know that they are all safe that way. We also have my dad, my uncle and my sister within a 20 mile radius now, so we see them more often. I do thank God for the internet - living out here without it would be challenging - and I hate shopping with a passion!! I can't understand people who say they have been to Cambridge or Peterborough to the shops for recreation - if I can't get it in the little town 8 miles away, I send for it on the internet, we make it or we do without!!"

It seems a bit strange to me that in that moment of writing to someone I didn't know, I could all of a sudden have that clarity, and realise that it is not where I live that it is important, but it is the feeling that I belong there that matters, and makes us happy there. It has taken me a while to reach this conclusion, but actually I think that I have had this feeling of contentment in the area for a while now, and I don't long to be elsewhere any more!!

8 comments:

Kim said...

I have a favourite saying
"Bloom where you are planted". You & your family have done that & proved that it's not where you live that's important, but what you do there.
You are a part of the community now & it and your lives are all the richer for it.

Kim from Frugaldom

P.s. We have friends just outside Dunfermline & at Tayport. When we used to go to Kirkaldy when my son was small, he used to call it Kirk-a-dilli which used to have us in stitches.
Also, I don't know why but I want to keep calling your blog "GROWLING in the Fens" for some reason

Morgan said...

It's a weird one to pronounce and we kept calling it "Kir-caldy" when we first went up there, but our neighbours soon put us right - "Kir-coddy" is the closest I can think as a way of writing it but that doesn't quite hit the mark!!

As for Growling - maybe I am moaning too much at the moment, but I am having a hard time in some areas - sorry!!

Kim said...

That's ok, I don't think the time of year helps. We need some sunshine to buck us all up & make us feel better

Wannabe Sybil said...

I do understand. I don't feel I belong anywhere, but little bear belongs here and that is what matters. I think wherever he is will be the best place for me. It took me a long time to understand that it was people, not geography, and also my attitude. WS x

Wannabe Sybil said...

Also a sticky hug from little bear - you need it and deserve it! WS x

Morgan said...

Thanks for all that support, guys! It means a lot to me.....

Mrs. Mac said...

Kim stated my sentiment about 'blooming where you are planted' .. there are advantages and disadvantages to both city and country living. Make the best of where you are at the moment.

Hugs,

Morgan said...

I've never had so many comments in one day - thank you everyone for stopping by!