(image from lordsgifts.co.uk)
Appreciation is another side of the same coin. It is ever so slightly different. These days, I am sick to death of people gushing on the tv and saying, "Thank you SO much!" all the time. It feels as if they think that just saying "Thanks" is meaningless and so they have to quantify it in some way.
So the chap next door risked life and limb to go up on the roof, and we took him and his son their wee gift tonight. Awkward does not even begin to describe the scene. "Well, that was a stupid thing to do!" was the opening comment from the son when I said we had just popped round to say "Thank you!" and then the dad went on about, "We didn't do it for that" and they dug themselves deeper and deeper into it, until I just gave the son the bottle of wine, expressed our gratitude once more, and left them to their splutterings.
What a contrast between them and the computer chappie, who just said, "Oooh! I like that, thanks," and popped it in the fridge.
There's all kinds of reasons for their awkwardness - perhaps! Perhaps they don't get thanked very often, perhaps they don't do things for other folk that much to get thanked, I don't know. It may even be a man-thing - like man-flu?
There's another little point here but it is a serious one - we widows do not want pity. We are strong women, we have been through all sorts, and so we can cope with disasters of all kinds, because we have already been through the major disaster, and we are still here. We don't want people to be on our team because they feel sorry for us, and we do expect to be able to thank our team when we are supported.
Lesson for today - be gracious when someone thanks you, because it makes the person saying it feel pretty rubbish if you are not......but we'll keep putting their bins out for them when necessary :)