Tuesday, 3 June 2014

A quick thought for tonight

because I should be asleep!

Several people just lately have told me that I am taking good care of the FH, that he is being well looked after, etc and it has made me think about ME, to be honest.  If I am to take the best care of him, I need to look after myself as well, so I am planning some measures to improve my own wellbeing........knitting and chocolate spring to mind, as well as long, hot baths and more sleep!  However, I am not sure that they are the best kinds of regime, and I do think that a bit more exercise might do my backside and my headspace some good, so that is something I will look at, and perhaps work on, this week.  Prioritising is the key, I believe.

All ideas welcome.  What do you do to take care of #1?  I know that several of you are carers too, so I'd be glad to hear from you in particular.  Thank you, as always.


Kim @ Him, Him Me said...

Hi Morgan, Thankyou for leaving a comment on my blog.
From the experience of looking after my Dad right up to the end, I think I would say exercise is important as well as eating good food. It becomes so easy to snatch the easiest junkiest food around but you need to eat right.
Keep a routine going, where possible.
Get out of the house whenever you can.
Accept help whenever it's offered, be it for the girls, Fh or yourself.
Be as Normal as possible for as long as possible.
Remember, too, that people say strange and often horrible things when they are in pain, but it isn't them talking, it's the pain.
Forgive easily and love him lots, which I know you will.
Hope this helps

Deborah Brewer said...

`I m not sure i am much help but I understand your dilemma I am 45 with a husband of 61 so expect to have a similar problem at some point. I wish you all the good wishes in the world xx

Varis Creations said...

I can wholeheartedly recommend running - no don't laugh! Remember this is coming from a lifelong exercise avoider and PE hater at school :) I started with the NHS couch to 5K programme http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/c25k/Pages/couch-to-5k.aspx. Running has transformed both my body (there are muscles now!) but just as important and one of the main reasons i have kept going is the time it gives me to escape from life and clear my head. All you need is a decent pair of trainers and a decent sports bra :) to get started. At least there aren't many hills where you are.

Hugs from all of us up north

Lyssa Medana said...

I'm rubbish at this but somehow getting headspace for yourself for me is vital. Then you get the food/sleep/exercise stuff that will help you get the resources to keep going. Prayers continue. WS xxx

Welsh Poppy said...

I am a carer to my husband and eating healthy losing weight and exercise work for me.I run,walk and yoga and it really helps me to cope with all the problems we face daily.You all are in my prayers xx

Allegra said...

Too right - remember you are supposed to put your own oxygen mask on first, else you may well not be able to help anyone else on with theirs.
For me, the most important things are eating properly, sleeping well and head space - reading (books and blogs) usually takes care of that, and is squeezed into any available moment. And these things work together - if I give myself sufficient mental space, I will sleep better, and that in turn will help me remember to eat properly !

Trudie said...

I always find working in the greenhouses or the garden is enough to help clear my head of the stresses of life - hope you find your own 'little bit of space' too. Xxx

Gary Sanders said...

A long hot bath and a good book always helps me.