Monday, 7 July 2014

Fish and Chips

Hello YFG here,

Our family is going through a rough spot and we are all very emotional at the moment.

My dad, and a very well known man around this area died this morning and it is especially hard on my mother, who can't bear to tell you without giving the laptop water damage with all her tears, bless her. We all miss him, he was such a character! He had recently been very poorly and was looking forward to coming home. However, this morning we got an urgent call to come into the hospital. One of mum's friends had to take us as she was too shaken up and worried. They sat us in a room and the very nice doctor who had been looking after him broke the news and said that he was out of breath and passed away very quickly and peacefully. There was no suffering at all.

There were many times when he would be quite frustrating and others where he would be very funny. We went through a list today of the people we need to inform about the funeral and we have thought of so many people, it will be hard for us to fit them into the chapel in the village. Some people are even coming from as far as Scotland. We have got so much support and so many people who are going to help us through this. But mainly we have each other. We are going to take it one step at a time. I am currently on work experience and I think I will go back on Wednesday. EFG and mum are going to sort the house out while I am at school/work and I will help when I'm home.

For the funeral, we are going to put together a slideshow with a load of pictures of him and project it up on the chapel wall while people come in. We will also play Apache by the Hank Marvin as he always liked that song. Mum thought that it would be a great idea to get four BMW or other old English motorbikes to accompany the hearse through the village as my dad loved motorbikes. Last year, while my dad was still fit and well, he decided he wanted to make his own coffin. Now that certain circumstances have arisen, his son is now going to take that challenge on and is privileged to do that as it will mean a lot to him.

The title originates from a church service. Once, the congregation was told to write down something that they were thankful for. My dad was sitting next to a very elderly woman who had no idea what to write. Being his usual self, he leaned over and said to the lady "Put fish and chips". So this is what I feel like, I don't know what to call news like this. I could have called it "Tragedy in the family" or something along those lines but I thought that this title was more creative and reminds me of my father.

Now that he is gone, there is a big part of our lives missing. We are all staying strong and the three of us are coping well. Hopefully, mum will find strength to write more soon.

Love YFG x








53 comments:

Nita in South Carolina said...

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry. It was very kind of you to update for your mother. I have been praying for your family for the past few weeks. Love and hugs from the southern USA.

Carolina22 said...

Sending love and prayers to all of you! So very very sorry for your loss. We will keep your family in our prayers.

veeknits19 said...

So sorry to hear your sad news. I do hope you can all take comfort in remembering the happy times you had together and that he did not suffer at the end. Thankyou YFG for writing this thoughtful post which must have been difficult to do.
Thinking of you all, big hugs, Vee xxx

cochranegirl said...

Dear YFG - Thank you for posting this sad news. I do not "know" you or your family, but I have followed your Mum's blog for a while now and please be assured that you are all in my prayers. Blessings to you all.

Lesley H in Livingston, West Lothian.

Kim @ Him, Him Me said...

So Sorry, will be praying for you all

Sals View said...

So sorry to hear this very sad news. Bless you all.

LAGL said...

So sorry xx Praying that you will know that God is carrying you at this time and for strength to do what is needed and wisdom to leave what is not. xx

NYK in Frugaldom said...

So sorry to hear your news. Thoughts are with you all at this sad time.

SarahElisabeth Jones said...

Sorry to hear this. You are in my prayers.

Cheapchick said...

Wow, so sad for you and your family. My thoughts are with you. Thank you for letting us know here - very kind of you.

tylasnan said...

My heart goes out to all of you today. Thank you so much YFG for being able to tell us of this very sad event.

Karen near Gympie

Frugally challenged said...

Oh YFG, what a courageous young woman you are! Your mum must be so proud of you, and your dad so glad that you and your sister are there for each other and for your mum. What you have written has moved me (and I’m sure many others) to tears.

Reading blogs is an extraordinary activity. We read about the lives of people who would otherwise be strangers to us and they become people we really care about. Your mum has shared some of your family’s story with us, and I (and many others) have made you part of our prayers and that will continue. You have three special things to help you at this time – a loving family, memories of a great dad and faith in a loving God who knows what he is about even when we can’t see it.

Sue said...

I am very sorry to hear the news. I have followed your mum's blog for a long time but not commeneted often. Please send her and all you family my love
Sue

Louise said...

I am so sad and sorry to hear about FH. Very difficult to find the words to comfort you all. Having read your blog for the last 18 months I have learned what a close family you are. YFG you did an amazing thing yesterday, written beautifully, FH would have been very proud of you. You are all in my thoughts and prayers over the next few difficult days with love Louise xx

Gary Sanders said...

I haven't known you all for long, but this news has upset me. Sending you all much love and many prayers.

Deborah W said...

I am so very sorry to hear this news. Sending gentle thoughts and hugs to you all. Please take care.
Deborah x

SusanM said...

What a lovely girl you are to write this. But I've always said that you are a lovely family. My heart goes out to you all x

Retro Wren said...

My heart goes out to you all at this time. Bless you.xx

Sending big virtual hugs, and much love,

Donna xxx

sweet blondie blue eyes said...

I am so sorry to hear your news, I never knew FH but felt I did. We had been so looking forward to meeting you both.

Please let us know where the funeral is and the time, we would like to be there to remember such a great brave man.

Angela said...

Dear YFG - thank you SO much for taking on the task of sharing this sad news. It was a real privilege to meet you ALL - including your Dad - last year. You have been in our prayers daily in recent weeks - and will continue to be so. God bless and comfort you through this tough time, and surround you with His love. I know there are many people, near and far, supporting you in prayer right now. Give your Mum a huge hug from me. And tell her not to attempt to blog until she is ready- we will understand. Much love xxxxx

Judy Y said...

Oh sweetie, so sorry to hear this. Hugs and prayers to you and your family xx

mallowlark said...

So very sorry to hear this. You've done a lovely job sharing this very difficult news, and I think it's just right that you found a title that reminds you of a happy memory of your father and his sense of humour.

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thrift deluxe said...

So sorry to hear this, my thoughts are with you all.

Lyssa Medana said...

So sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you. WS xxx

ciao said...

So sorry to hear the news and such a shock to you all, take care of each other will keep you all in my prayers,

Scarlet said...

What a brave and eloquent young lady you are. May you all draw strength from each other, from your faith, and from your memories.

Emma Watts said...

YFG- thank you sharing this sad news with us all at such a difficult time. My heart goes out to you all and I wish you strength and comfort. The love you have as a family is abundant, and yet you all still find time to think about and give to others. God bless you all x

Jackie said...

So many prayers for you, your mum and EFG - brave girl, to come here and update, but make time for your own tears too. x

Donna said...

Your mum must be so proud of you.

Thinking of you all.

I don't know you, yet I feel like I do. I feel so sad for you all.

Take care

Donnax

Allegra said...

YFG, thanks so much for updating the blog for your mum - and the title is wonderful - smiles through the tears, and celebration of a life. Like so many have said - we are all literally strangers, but we are also virtual friends, and we'll be thinking of you all. Big hugs for all three of you, and yes, one day at a time is the only way to go. Love and blessings xxx

Mac n' Janet said...

So sorry to hear of your lose, may the Lord and your family sustain you at this sad time.

Karen said...

What a very brave young lady you are. Such sad news in a beautifully written post. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this sad time. Take care , much love, Karen xx

simplesuffolksmallholder said...

This is such sad news, thank you YFG for your bravery in writing this for your mum.
I have been thinking about you often over the last weeks and will keep you in my thoughts now.
Take care Morgan and girls

Lynne said...

So sorry to hear this news, my love and hugs are sent to you all at this time.

Sooze said...

Never commented before but just had to say how sorry I am to read this.

Caroline Wilson said...

Thinking and praying for you all even when you know somethings will not get better it still comes as a shock but it sounds like you are all surrounded by a loving family and a church family which will I am sure be there for you in the future God bless you all x

Frugal in Bucks said...

I cried although I've never met you or your family there's a type of connection when you read a blog regularly you feel that you kind of "know" the people and we had been privileged to have read about your family. The way you wrote this shows what a wonderful family you have, they must be very proud. Fish and chips- a lovely memory. Xxx
Please tell your mum we are all sending love and hugs. X

rabbitquilter said...

So very sorry to hear your sad news. YFG, you are a brave, dear, sweet soul for writing such a beautiful, but difficult post. Much love to you all XXX

Jo said...

You are in my prayers too.

lah2563 said...

Such sad newa, thinking of you all at this time. A lovely written post, very eloquent. Hugs to all of you, take care of each other. Much love Lynda

Mindo said...

I am so sorry to read this post. I have been reading your Mum's blog for about 12 months, and recently connected with her regarding the hat knitting project.

You wrote so beautifully about your Dad, your Mum must be very proud of you. My best wishes to all of you at this very difficult time.

Trudie said...

So, so sorry to hear your sad news take care of each other, hugs for all 3 of you from me xxx

Nearly Martha said...

So so sorry to hear this. Have followed your Mum's blog for so long, In our prayers tonight.

Compostwoman said...

I am so sorry for your loss:( Sending you all my thoughts and hugs xxx

Penelope P. said...

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. I am keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.xxxxx

Sandies' Patch said...

YFG, I'm visiting via Angelas' blog, 'Tracing Rainbows', and I'm sorry for your loss but, what a nice man he sounded and I love his sense of humour.
I hope you find comfort in memories of your Dad and with your family and friends.
Take care xxx

shona said...

Never commented before, but wanted to say how sorry I am to hear this sad news. Thinking of you all

catherine said...

So sorry to hear your sad news. Love to you all x

Sue said...

I am so sorry to hear your news. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Draw those you love around you and help each other through this sad and emotional times.

Your cyber friends are all here for you whenever you need us.

Fish and chips is a wonderful title for this post, happy memories at a sad time are sometimes all we can draw on to keep us sane.

xx

Dc said...

We are so sorry to hear of your news, especially after the previous days post. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. xxx

Bonnie said...

Dear Morgan and family,
Wonderful words of kindness have already been spoken. I simply want let you know that we are praying for an easing of your pain. God has seen me through a terrible loss, and I know that you only have to ask for comfort. Remember your blog post, "Blessed are they who mourn..."
with sincere condolence,
Bonnie

Frugal in Bucks said...

Just so you know, we are all here thinking of you and your family.