I did it last week - I saw a man on a bike, struggling against the wind and lugging two bags of shopping on his handlebars, and I thought to myself, "Poor bloke, can't afford a car, and in this weather, he's having a hard time....." but then I wondered whether actually, he can afford a car, and just prefers to bike, or preferred to bike on that particular day. And I have been subject to comments myself a couple of times lately about my ability to afford things, albeit in a very subtle way today.
We have been borrowing our neighbour's dog over the past couple of weekends to go for walks around the village, and I mentioned to him today that we might consider a dog ourselves by the time that the YFG is off to uni, so that I have some company....and his response was that it is cheaper to borrow his dog a couple of times a week than to have one of our own. Yes, that IS strictly true, of course, because we get the pleasure of the walks without the costs of keeping the lovely dog. On the other hand, I can't see me going round and asking if I can borrow the dog for a hour or two "to keep me company" as that sounds weird compared to asking if I can take him out for a walk!!
And then there have been the comments about my capability to do things, like buy a car, and rod our drains. Some folk thought that I couldn't do either on my own - I won't go there!! I've done both in the last month, and survived.
The moral of the tale - you know! Don't prejudge.......heck - don't judge at all, and just let's all get on with what we are doing and do it the best way we know how - we can all ask for help if we need it!
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