tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post3689449350477162984..comments2023-12-02T19:11:06.489+00:00Comments on Growing in the Fens: Do-er or stew-er?Morganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10875708145472914122noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-12785770587761145762015-09-29T20:34:37.611+01:002015-09-29T20:34:37.611+01:00I've just had a catch up on blog reading and s...I've just had a catch up on blog reading and seen your last 2 posts. A horrible situation for all concerned. Without sounding harsh on the young lady who is self harming, can EFG find elsewhere to live? She and the others as expected all sound like caring young women and not the sort to just roll over and go back to sleep and perhaps it would be best to move to other accommodation where she won't be so stressed. Anyway, hope it all works out whatever happens. All part of life's rich tapestry as my mother says. Sending love xxxxFrugal in Buckshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03637007004041752433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-57911605631753097142015-09-29T19:49:43.577+01:002015-09-29T19:49:43.577+01:00Thoughts and prayers to you, the EFG, and the othe...Thoughts and prayers to you, the EFG, and the other girls. If she's nervous about crying when she talks to people about it, could perhaps one of the other girls go with her? Does the accommodation she's in have a junior dean or warden or someone else on site to deal with problems? If so, does that person know about the situation? I have also found that university chaplains are often an excellent resource for things like this, as they tend to have a good supply of tea/biscuits/tissues as needed, as well as an excellent knowledge of what other support is available.<br /><br />A slight caveat on the tutor: I hope the EFG's is excellent, but personal tutors don't always have much training for welfare issues --- he or she may or may not know the resources available either, although they should be generally supportive and be able to advise if it's affecting academic work.mallowlarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15817651619883272316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-43029219610170313762015-09-29T18:48:03.719+01:002015-09-29T18:48:03.719+01:00That's good to hear - I am sure things will wo...That's good to hear - I am sure things will work outAngelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13494078135251214182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-27967074607347169622015-09-29T17:52:06.325+01:002015-09-29T17:52:06.325+01:00Thank you. I have had an email confirming that she...Thank you. I have had an email confirming that she has emailed the tutor's PA, and has an appointment to speak with someone at Student Support.<br /><br />S - thank you for your wise words. Much appreciated xMorganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10875708145472914122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-31816460199802675752015-09-29T16:43:57.757+01:002015-09-29T16:43:57.757+01:00I am praying. Please keep us updated.I am praying. Please keep us updated.Regena Fickeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00734641081038336168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-21772786957832876882015-09-29T12:28:01.624+01:002015-09-29T12:28:01.624+01:00I agree, Ang, and emailing the tutor was on the li...I agree, Ang, and emailing the tutor was on the list of suggestions this morning. Hope she does, and gets a response! Have also told her to go in to Student Support and Advice in the InfoHub today and talk to them. I think she is frightened to talk to people because she thinks she will cry, and she hates that, but I've said that she just needs to talk to them and let them know that the four of them need help. Prayers? Thank you.Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10875708145472914122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-61157337160816459192015-09-29T12:24:31.519+01:002015-09-29T12:24:31.519+01:00Thoughts and prayers - but EFG needs to try and so...Thoughts and prayers - but EFG needs to try and sort this one out with her other housemates [has she got a tutor she can speak to?] rather than you rushing up there.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13494078135251214182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-61362282961694435102015-09-29T12:12:58.245+01:002015-09-29T12:12:58.245+01:00Thank you all for your supportive comments. It IS ...Thank you all for your supportive comments. It IS very stressful, and I have tried to help her understand that this girl is not their responsibility, but it is hard for them when she comes home drunk at 3 am and is banging about in the flat unable to find her room - they have to get up and put her to bed or put up with the noise she is making until she finds her bed....unfortunately, her general behaviour, from what I have heard, does not endear her to them. Anyway, I am hoping to hear from the EFG later on tonight and fingers crossed that some progress will have been made. Thank you all again xMorganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10875708145472914122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-40045521028855803032015-09-29T10:04:52.938+01:002015-09-29T10:04:52.938+01:00Hello
It is stressful living with someone with men...Hello<br />It is stressful living with someone with mental health difficulties or going through a period of emotional distress. Hopefully the girl will be in a better state when she returns and her mother will have arranged something whilst she was away. Your daughter and her flat mates need to understand they do not have to take full responsibility for the girl's welfare. Any decisions could be shared with the other flat mates. They should feel comfortable about phoning the girl's mother if need be. Perhaps there could be a discussion along those lines when the mother brings her back. The university may have a student mental health support service who could get involved. Are they in university accommodation? The accommodation manager could be another resource if living with the girl becomes difficult. Your daughter and the other flat mates may feel uncomfortable contacting other services because of fear of breaking a confidence or appearing to interfere, but the girl is living with them and even if taking any action causes problems later your daughter and her co-residents should feel reassured that they are acting in the girls's best interest. The key thing I think is for the flat mates to have a discussion about what to do if the situation deteriorates again with the girl and her mum on their return when hopefully the girl is in a settled state. You may have already said this to your daughter already. Philiphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13415361156288825232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-85907865294359279042015-09-29T09:48:15.627+01:002015-09-29T09:48:15.627+01:00I feel for you, it's so hard. I can remember w...I feel for you, it's so hard. I can remember when my daughter was at University and was phoning three or four times a day because she was so unhappy. Thankfully she was only an hour away, and I could easily bring her home when I needed to which wasn't actually that often. <br />Problems with flat mates are far more common that you would think, you only learn this later on. Eight years on my daughter just says 'it was character building <br /> Mum'. <br />No easy answer I'm afraid, but you are in my thoughts ❤️XBarbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12238152842485677600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-84427276112739179552015-09-29T09:44:02.634+01:002015-09-29T09:44:02.634+01:00I would of thought there is help at the uni for th...I would of thought there is help at the uni for them all. has she asked, <br />phyllis weavinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16770675143086861084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-90368364427521667312015-09-29T09:39:16.639+01:002015-09-29T09:39:16.639+01:00Same as us with DS in his first term - got there i...Same as us with DS in his first term - got there in the end!Dchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02490191919855219024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493748718507781603.post-48239947797453662172015-09-29T09:24:27.929+01:002015-09-29T09:24:27.929+01:00And I can pray too. And I can pray too. Frugally challengedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10222391810215537820noreply@blogger.com